Couples Therapy

You still love each other, but you can’t stop repeating the same conflict over and over. Or, you feel like strangers now; you both have changed, but can your relationship change with you? I partner with couples to learn how to communicate effectively, end damaging conflict cycles, and increase empathy and intimacy. Ultimately, we build up your relational security or the felt sense that you are understood and safe to be yourself in your relationship. 

First, we will work together on understanding your conflict cycle. We will explore what is stuck. What’s under the surface? What are you not saying? What do you need from one another to feel safe?

Then, we will make connections. Why did this pattern have the opportunity to take root? Are these learned behaviors from your childhood? Do you want to keep them or learn new ones? (I’m going to encourage you to learn new ones).

During our work together, I will offer tailored exercises and activities to encourage you to learn new skills to replace the old habits that got you into trouble. If you show up with a willingness to connect and look deeper Into your role in your relationship(s), this process will help you communicate more authentically, get the response you need from your partner, and feel more connected to both yourself and your partner.

I love working with couples and am excited to dig in with you. 

For highly motivated couples, please check out my Relationship Intensive offering. I am really excited about this breakthrough model of couples therapy. It is a highly effective, condensed therapy without the months-long commitment.

I do not discriminate. I offer therapy for all relationship statuses and types, whether monogamy, polyamory, heterosexual, LGBTQ or any combination not mentioned. If you are in a relationship and want to focus on building love and intimacy–it doesn’t matter how many of you there are or what your formulation is. I’m happy to support you.